Our Story

Nothing is at a point to share. Both dressers (the antique empire and the mid-century pieces) are curing then need a few coats of wax and more cure time. I’m waiting for 2 sets of hardware. And telling you about the grass we’re trying to grow is a real snorer of a topic. At least I would think so as a reader. So I’m going to share the post I started to write about us as answered by Annie. It’s lengthy. Grab a snack, a drink, take breaks. Here is our story. (Oh, and a banana bread waffle recipe from my other site to sweeten the deal of you reading this entire thing.)

Feel free to ask more….I really didn’t know what to include.

Q: What’s your favorite color? (directed to Annie)

A: Blue-to be specific dark blue like cobalt or navy. When paired with gold or vintage brass, it’s gorgeous. I’m a little obsessed with the combo right now.

Q: What brand of paint do you like best?

A: We try to use what’s nearby for most projects but even then we have a decent amount of options. Right now, we go to our local Ace Hardware for Benjamin Moore. That said, we like to try different paints and will go with whatever the client wants or what we believe the piece needs (chalk paint, milk paint, stain, etc.) to make it unique.

Q: Where do you live?

A: Right now,southern Minnesota-a town called Northfield but we’re both from small towns in northern Indiana (hey to my Hoosiers) although we spent a little over 5 years in Lafayette, West Lafayette for college (boiler up to my Purdue pals). Northfield is famous for taking down Jesse James and his gang after they attempted a bank robbery (reenacted often) and for its renowned private colleges-St. Olaf and Carleton.

Greg working in the "wood lab." (That we hear is closing. Boo!)

Q: How did you decide to start refinishing furniture and blog about it?

A: Greg worked with his dad building houses in their family construction business since before his teenage years and his dad had a woodshop where Greg dabbled in woodworking. He made several things for fun (a coffee table we still use, a tv stand, desk, a poker table for me who loves to play cards, a chair made from tropical species and a bunch of other things) then changed his degree at Purdue University from chemistry/chemical engineering, after 3 years in that field, to wood product manufacturing technology (with like a whopping 8 in the degree). He worked part-time in the “wood lab” and some helping to build bass guitars. (I was working to earn a degree in Psychology with a Business minor.) He came to me for advice on the aesthetic parts.

A few rough years followed after graduating, we eventually moved to Minnesota in the summer of 2008 for a job in his field. It was either a job here or in Charlotte…but the North Carolina position paid little. We did fall in love with Charlotte on a 10 day trip but we needed to make sure bills were covered. His days now are spent as an engineer building/designing/maintaining restaurant furniture and writing programs. I was unable to get a position in social work when we moved due to a difference in degrees and the need for more coursework (cha-ching). I started feeling melancholy and eventually began my food blog which helped improve my outlook and inspired me to follow another passion, back to furniture, design and decor. Moving to a state where you don’t know anyone and are crammed into a tiny apartment when you’re used to land to roam and people to visit can take a toll on your sanity and make you question who you truly are. We’re both different, I’d say improved. It took some time to get here but has helped us pinpoint what we want to do, a timeline, where we want to be and it’s great to release the ideas that were stuck in my head with no outlet.

Greg, his brother and dad in 1988

I’d always had my hand on the craigslist pulse in terms of furniture finding and I tried to make each apartment cozy, a sanctuary for us. We lived in many many apartments since college and pretty much had nothing to do or space to do it in until we got a rental with a garage last year (no power/no water…but you know that from the early writings on the Wits). I started writing about home décor, our house search and furniture on my other blog, the Dabble, when I realized that content should probably go to a new source and thus, the Wits was born. And it is called the Wits but our last name is Witkamp.

Then we purchased this house-our first-and began documenting the work on the blog on top of the furniture refinishing. We love DIY and Greg is very knowledgeable on the subject. Satisfaction and happiness are at all an all time high these days. It’s amazing what a loving partner, finding that thing you can picture yourself doing for the rest of your life and good food can do for a person.

In our old apartment

Q: You also have a food blog-the Dabble?

A: Yep, I’m a foodie (and I’ll still use that term even though it makes some people cringe) and I actually started that blog about 3 years ago. No, I didn’t grow up in a family where cooking/cuisine was a big deal. I was a picky eater in my younger days. The fascination started in college when I wanted to lose weight and change my nutrition (I don’t like the word diet) when I began using fresh ingredients and techniques new to me and back then, what wasn’t? I was horrible at first-still have moments but years later, after most of our weekend projects, awaits a meal I prepped in advance that is pretty damn good. It brings a calm over me to make something awesome.

And just as I get excited about beautiful furniture and hardware, I get with food, quality ingredients and dining somewhere amazing (mostly hole in the walls). When we pick up a new piece, we often pair it with a good meal somewhere in the area.

With the evenings being warm and summer here, we’re often using the charcoal grill…someday that will be a nicer piece of equipment but again, we’re working on the house on a tight budget so probably a distant dream. Having an outdoor brick oven would knock my socks off.

Oh, I want to add, because I’ve had issues with this topic in the past, that I do not enjoy the culinary side of life because I’m a daughter, woman or wife. I enjoy it as a person who loves preparing fresh, seasonal, delicious dishes, for the reasons a person chooses to become a chef (if I could do my undergrad again, I’d go that route). Not due to my sex. Growing up in the Midwest, Indiana and now Minnesota, it’s amazing the number of people that bring up how my “wife duty” is to cook or the notion that a daughter is supposed to grow up learning how to cook for her husband. Greg and I share chores and it’s basically whoever can get to them first. It’s also insulting when someone assumes I don’t do the dirty parts of our furniture business and can’t answer questions about the process. Those are the people who apparently don’t read the blog. Any given day, you’d see how I’m a mess with paint, filler, dust or dirt in my nasty jeans and t-shirt. I used to be fashionable but now I just appreciate and pin it to my Pinterest board. Just like I used to do my hair but have since let it go. Long and curly would be the style. I’ve been considering a makeover for my 30th in September. Something that depicts me a bit better. But I’d rather take that money and put it towards debt or more pieces to makeover.

2006-Greg followed me around on the day I graduated with my then new camera. He likes to annoy you to no end then takes it 10 steps beyond and he thinks it's fun.

Q: You have a degree in Psychology?

A: Indeedy do, I have a Bachelors degree with an Organizational Leadership minor from Purdue University. I graduated with honors and was voted Primus in my business course (a big deal to me). I catered my degree to Industrial Organizational Psy-the business/consulting side of psychology and planned to attain a Masters in such a field…but then I graduated with quite a load of student loan debt and decided to find a job then go back to it. That’s where social work came in. I found a position working for a non-profit agency/hospital whose services were court-ordered into the local school corporation. I worked in a middle school. The services were not appreciated nor explained to a few of the schools…guess who was lucky enough to land in one of the two. It was not for me and that’s saying it as nicely as I can muster. Every day involved walking into a hostile environment created by the faculty and staff (led by the school counselor) towards me and I was there alone. Every step I took they worked hard to make it look as if I were incompetent so they wouldn’t have the agency to deal with. They went through 4 case managers in 2 years before me, telling the hospital it “wasn’t a good fit” with the others and the person I took over for didn’t do her job and wished she could just get a job in the school as a teaching assistant. Many of the case managers were former teachers or people who had a degree in teaching who couldn’t find a position within a school. I later found out the counselor once worked with one of the founders of the agency and they had a huge falling out…to the point they wouldn’t be in the same room together. Here I go getting into it when I’ve worked hard not to have it in my mind as often. Furniture doesn’t upset me nor criticize my ideas. Most of the time.

I know people say you learn something from every experience/no regrets blah blah but this is probably the only thing in life I wish I hadn’t done. The very small pay, long hours and heartbreaking conditions that my adolescent clients endured was too much…and the nasty people “assisting” were not fun to deal with on a daily basis either. The clients and the coworkers turned friends were the best part but I’m not allowed to keep in touch with my former clients. As a caring human, how do you do that? To avoid the long stories, I will just leave the topic. I hope they are well. Most graduated from high school this year.

I’m happy to have such a degree-behavior is fascinating-and maybe when I find myself with more money, I’ll go back. I was close to being a child/adolescent therapist. Having my own private practice was once a goal.

But I have many ideas I’d like to accomplish with my time on this earth-open a small restaurant or food truck, a line of hardware/home décor, expand this furniture business and get to a point where we can design our own pieces and build a modern home in Oregon, looking over a valley within the woods. Totally attainable. I’d like to travel. A lot. To make up for the time we missed out while being all responsible and paying our debts.

I went with Greg to his Prom strictly as friends. So young.

Q: How did you two meet?

A:We went to high school together but I was dating one of his friends…that was a few years of mess…but then we reconnected in college, he waited for me while I took time to be alone then he won me over and we began dating. 13 months later we were engaged. Engaged for almost 5 years before having a tiny ceremony in Minnesota and reception in Indiana months later.

Q: You’re from Indiana?

A: Both of us come from small towns near Ft. Wayne in the northeast part of the state. Raised in the country. I had draft horses and farming is in my family while Greg grew up helping his family’s construction business, absorbing all kinds of useful knowledge. That’s why he’s particular. Gets it honest.

Sweet home Indiana (my parent's place) and that's my grandparent's farm in the back

We would love to live in the country again but adore being close to a large city. Ultimately, we see ourselves designing and building our own home with lots of windows and a modern feel somewhere in Oregon (or Washington).

Q: Why Oregon (or Washington)?

A: Greg was first offered a position in Eugene but that fell through after 8 months of preparing to move (ouch). It was a hard time because we fell in love with the area and felt it more appealing for our personalities/interests. We’ve been trying to get there ever since. But Greg feels that he needs to put some time in his career and it’s tough to find a new job/move on with little money. Maybe another few years in Minnesota and we’ll be in a better position.

Q: What blogs do you enjoy reading?

A: I follow and subscribe to dozens and dozens of blogs. My inbox is always full and my thirst still isn’t quenched. I love finding inspiration and interesting people. Some of my current favorites are Housetweaking, Young House Love, the Brick House, Knack, Vintage Revivals, Creature Comforts, Miss Mustard Seed, a Country Farmhouse, the Nesting Game, Nest Egg, Living Savvy, Restored Style, Not Just A Housewife, Better After, the Inspired Room, Design Dump, Little Green Notebook then I’m always checking in with Apartment Therapy, Design Sponge, Remodelista and High Fashion Home Blog. This feels like I’m giving a thank you speech, trying not to leave someone out and look like a major jerk. I know there’s more. See my Pinterest board for the food blogs I keep up with.

Q: What’s your favorite movie?

A: That’s tough. Everything depends on my mood. I am not big on declaring things my absolute favorite beyond color and person (Greg). Greg and I quote Drowning Mona with Bette Midler, Danny DeVito, Casey Affleck, William Fichtner, Jamie Lee Curtis, Will Ferrell and so forth on a daily basis (we like dark humor and sarcasm). “Landscapers get incarcerated.”

Bridesmaids-Judd Apatow movies usually win us over. Drop Dead Fred comes into our conversations. “You see when something’s not working right, the best thing to do is tear it apart to make it better” or “Oh no, Mickey Fart-Pants. Whoever let HIM grow up?“ or “You got married? You mean you’ve been doing it like the pigeons? No! Yuck!” or “I wrote the note. Hahahahaha! Haven’t got a husband! Haven’t got a husband! Got a stupid hair cut” and one of the best lines ever “I am a loner, a crazy wide-eyed loner on a doomed mission to Venus to battle with the 3 headed mega beast but on the way I caught cornflakes disease.” You should see these by the way.

Super Troopers is funny, Moulin Rouge makes me cry every time. Poor Ewan McGregor (love him). The Evil Dead franchise, Black Sheep (David Spade and Chris Farley were great together), High Fidelity (younger John Cusack is my type of guy…after Greg that is), Labyrinth (David Bowie fans), Groundhog Day (Bill Murray rocks). Greg would add Back To the Future and Indiana Jones from his childhood and family traditions. I wish I could have moves like Uma in Kill Bill (a third is coming out). Indie flicks-if we have time to sit in front of the tv, we choose these for our weekend entertainment.

See how stylish I was in the 80's?

Q: What are you like in real life?

A: I’m asking myself these questions and feeling dopey but guess I’d say I don’t take myself too seriously. I’m sarcastic, a little cynical, ornery, passionate, sometimes quiet, sometimes not quiet. I’d do nearly anything for a loved one. Greg says I’m hilarious and that I have very descriptive facial expressions (I don’t realize it most of the time) which he loves…but you can’t see that. And I’m not one to put myself in pictures. Just never been a fan of my picture being taken. I’m self-deprecating. Laughing at myself happens on an hourly basis. I’m ridiculous sometimes. Once I have an idea in my mind, I like to see it come to fruition even if it doesn’t turn out right then I’ll move on. I’m a visual learner and my memory, I think, is eidetic or near photographic but chooses when to kick in. Seems like when certain emotions are involved. It kind of clicks on like a video camera at times. We fight, we tease but we get along pretty great, complementing one another. When we argue or have a weird interaction with someone, I resort to using character voices which makes Greg laugh and say “I do not sound like that” or we agree that the other person did in fact sound like that. I come up with creative insults which aren’t insulting and make Greg laugh but I’m not trying. It’s usually just something on the tip of my mind and I blurt it out, say to someone who pulls out in front of us or cuts in line. Probably have to be there. These days I’m more laid back and not into big social scenes. I spent my youth being uber social and kind of wore it out. Small gatherings are more my style. And please bring something yummy to snack on or sip. I love being introduced to something wonderful.

Since I write this blog for both of us, I’ll tell you about my husband, my partner in life and business. Greg is sweet, supportive, fun, my favorite person, often quiet, cute, hilarious and driven. He is loyal and knows what it takes to be a good friend. He’s very honest too. Sometimes it comes off a tad rude but he means no harm and it’s refreshing to me. Greg is a wise, older person in a young guy’s body. He’s smart and determined…with some things and lax with others. I wish I had his confidence and general outlook/disposition. He takes things as they come and handles situations better than I do. Ask the guy, a passerby on the sidewalk, who told me how to deal with our puppy after he glanced into a situation in our lives for 5 seconds. (I flipped him off…he deserved it. I also have a potty mouth.) Greg has a hard time remembering things though. It can seem pretty convenient but spend any amount of time and you’ll notice he really has trouble in this area. He can be a stinker. He’d like kids. He has almost convinced me. No, I want kids but we can’t afford them yet. Greg is younger by 2 years. It’s not a thing.

We love our families and friends.

Umm, I think I made this long enough. Feel free to ask more questions. I’d like that.

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3 Responses to Our Story

  1. Kris says:

    Fun “getting to know you” a bit better in this post. Oregon is gorgeous and I hope you’ll be able to make your dreams of moving out here a reality. In the meantime, if you end up with a chance to visit again, don’t hesitate to ask for recommendations on places to eat and drink. I’m sure I’ll come up with a ton of them!

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